Do you feel lonely in a cheerful group even if it consists of your friends or family, particularly since you want to engage in conversations yet it is difficult for you to do so? Perhaps that doesn't apply to you but someone whom you know. Either way, may my advice touch your heart and the souls of all you know.
Before I delve into helpful techniques, I must affirm that you are an amazing soul who is worthy of affection and if anyone believes otherwise then they are just blind to your magnificence. Keep in mind that those who truly care about you rightfully adore you just as much as those with whom conversation seems to smoothly flow. Dear soul, if it turns out that you haven't had the privilege of finding each other, strive on because oh you will. Now here is my guidance on how to more easily engage in conversation...
💡Attentively listen to those in your group. Let whoever is speaking know that you value them by looking directly at them. Also, be brave enough to look directly into their eyes from time-to-time. Please don't stare into their eyes though, unless you get an affirmation to do so; otherwise you may seem intimidating.
💡Even if there are many interruptions within the group conversation don't embarrass those who butt in. Just attentively listen to the interrupters and wait until they finish their pre-mature side stories. Make an attempt to speak to them privately afterwards (don't worry, coversations are generally easier when there are less people), and encourage them to wait their turn to talk next time. After all, though it may be rude to interrupt, people may interject because they fear that they may not be heard. Besides, interruptions may not be seen as rude but as subconsciously taking up the torch that the original speaker is willing to pass on. It all depends on the type of conversation, the environment which it takes place in, and the group dynamic.
Either way, when a break arrives in the group conversation, turn to the initiator of each conversation and say something as simple as "what were you saying?" This will allow everyone amongst you to make their voice heard.
💡Give truthful and brief affirmations to whoever is leading the conversation at the time such as "Wow, that's amazing", "I'm so happy for you", or "I've never gone through that but my heart breaks for you". ★★However, don't encourage anyone if they're glorifying a bad life decision (such as an addiction). In a private conversation and in a loving manner, persuade them to change that aspect of their life and provide support if you are able. Emphasize that you love them no matter what and attentively listen to them. If they directly endanger the lives of others or themselves then immediately get help for others' sake as much as theirs.★★
💡Ask simple questions, when appropriate, such as "What was the weather like when you...?", "How was your experience compared to...?", and "Were you more nervous or excited when...?" Asking questions can let the lead speaker know that you are paying attention and it helps keep the conversation engaging for all.
- Written by C.A. Nicholas
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